There is a show called Parenthood on TV, which is currently owning a spot on my favorite’s shelf. Warning: This show is charged emotionally and truly takes me through high highs and low lows. It is not for those who care not to navigate their soul’s ocean. But if you feel adventurous, give it a go, and I know you will not be disappointed.
A few weeks ago, I was watching this show and I felt as if I heard God speak so clearly to me. I heard, “Family is the highest honor in my kingdom.” When that statement came into my head, I am not going to lie. I was overwhelmed. In fact, I sobbed. What happened to our perspective on our family?
Now obviously, we all come from variegated situations at home, some good, some not so good. However, when we become believers, there is a family that is much higher than the family we find on earth. We are not merely related by blood, but by Christ, who made us one with him, and with the Father.
I tripped across this verse in my daily reading the same week I heard God speak to me about family being the highest honor and it echoed that refrain. Genesis 13:8, “Then Abram said to Lot, ‘Let there be no strife between you and me…for we are kinspeople.’” The reverb of that verse haunts me still. We should not have contentious, fighting families.
I am not going to lie, my family history says that contentiousness is the only way to get what is yours. There are 3 boys in my family and we all want what we desire when we desire it. However, I realized something in both my case and in Lot’s situation. I already have everything. I have that relationship. We can both share what we have and put selfishness aside.
Maybe that is what family is: Unselfish people sharing their lives.
Last night we were in a joint worship service with three “streams” of church people. I was nervous that there might be some tension, but I knew that the realization of family would indeed be what changed the evening. And it did.
As we were singing “Where I Belong” by Cory Asbury, I sensed a stirring in my heart. I began to sing: “He is the vine and we are the branches.” We sang it for a few and another line came to me: “And its a great big tree, cause we’re all a family.” That is still ringing in my heart this morning.
We’re family. You are mine and I’m yours. And this tree started with men like Abram, who realized that family is always more important than your possessions. People matter, and people are the components of my family.