Alright, let’s talk about the utter ridiculousness of this chart-topping New York Times best-seller, 50 Shades of Grey. If you’ve heard of this book, then it’s likely that you know a little bit about it. For those of you who haven’t heard about it, you can read an accurate, brief plot summary here. Basically, the book is about a young college grad girl who becomes infatuated by an unrealistically accomplished 27-year-old billionaire. Long story short: the man is extremely disturbed and controlling to the point of making this naive girl sign a contract that allows him to make all of her decisions (down to clothing, work-outs, when she can leave the house, meals, hygiene, etc.). Basically she willingly becomes his personal sex slave.
It gets worse.
He is controlling and dominating in the bedroom too. We’re talking violently erotic behavior; whips, leather, handcuffs, bondage – the whole creepy thing.
And girls are into this. They love it. Old, young, single, married, all of them. They are eating this stuff up. Why? For the life of me, I can’t answer that. Aside from the disturbing, pornographic nature of the novel, the writing is awful. As in the author must not have a vocabulary exceeding that of a 6th grade girl. I’ve read so many reviews on the book, and about 95% of them agree that the same cliches, expressions, phrases, and vocabulary is used throughout. Its writing style has been compared to the Twilight novels, but even worse.
I won’t go too deep into all the details of this book, but just know that I found predominantly negative reviews from non-Christian or non-faith related individuals. One reviewer wrote this concerning the book’s unhealthy under(over)tones:
The larger issue that this novel presents is that women should never be comfortable offering their bodies to a man that makes it clear he is emotionally incapable of love, and perfectly willing to implement capital punishment for eye rolling. Grey is a quintessential predator, Ana his prey, and the plot insinuates that, for the sake of eroticism, this is acceptable.
I sincerely hope that no Christian is indulging in this book or other erotic, romance novels. It’s emotional porn. The emotional attraction that women long to have, like in these books, describe sexual fantasies in detail, which is literary pornography. Obviously all novels of this genre are foolish and do not promote holiness in any way.
But let’s concentrate on the specific message of 50 Shades of Grey.
Here’s my problem with this particular book and the concept within its pages. It is promoting women being controlled. You would think that with all the kitchen/sandwich jokes and the obvious issue with sex slave trades around the world, this book would be put on a banned list – but it’s not. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury among women ages 15-44 in the U.S. More so than car accidents, rape, or mugging combined. Domestic violence occurs once every 15 seconds. With this type of grim reality for women’s treatment, why in the world are girls and women flocking to a book that promotes such a dastardly acts? I have a few ideas and theories, but I’ll avoid that for now.
All I can say to women is that you are worth so much more than being a man’s little controlled puppet. Yes, Scripture says for wives to submit to their husbands. But it also says that husbands are to love and care for their wives, not be an emotionally detached freak who wants to chain you to the bedpost. Relationships and marriage are partnerships. It’s about serving one another. 50 Shades teaches that women are empowered to “choose” whether or not they want to be controlled. But choosing to be controlled isn’t really a choice. It’s bondage. I don’t believe for one second that deep down all females want to be controlled or told what to do. That’s a sad byproduct of girls who lacked a (good, positive) father figure when growing up.
Women want to be loved.
So ladies, please don’t bother taking 50 Shades of Grey off the shelf.
If you want a solid story about passion and love, go grab a Bible and read Song of Solomon.
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